Don’t give up yet!

A man who studied 500 of the most successful people in the world wrote a number of books about his findings. One idea that he stresses in his writing is:

“One of the most common causes of failure is the habit of quitting when one is overtaken bytemporary defeat. Every person is guilty of this mistake at one time or another.” 1

A man named Darby lived during the gold-rush days of the west in the USA and moved to an area where many were finding gold. He searched for weeks and finally found  gold. He covered up the mine and went back east to raise money from friends and relatives so that he could buy the equipment he needed to mine the gold. Because he was so enthusiastic, many agreed to invest money in his gold mine.

He mined a sizable amount of gold with his uncle, but not enough to pay off the debt. In doing so he found that this was one of the richest mines in Colorado! He kept working, bringing up more gold and bringing it to the smelter.

Darby and his uncle drew up more gold and were very happy. But then the unimaginable happened. The vein of gold was mined and they found no more veins. They searched day after day but could not find any more gold.

They grew weary and decided to quit.

They took the machinery that mined the gold and sold it to a junk man for very little money. They did not realize the junk man was very clever. He called in a mining engineer to investigate the mine and apply his knowledge of mines to search for more gold. According to the engineer, the original project failed because the owners were not familiar with “fault lines.” The amazing thing he found was that the owners had quit digging just three feet from a mother lode, a huge vein of gold.

The junk man made millions of dollars from the mine because he knew enough to seek expert advice.

So it seems that it might be a sad ending for Darby. But the truth is that he learned a very important lesson. He realized he had stopped just short of millions of dollars’ worth of gold. He realized that he quit too easily and that even though the chances looked bleak, he should have kept going and sought expert advice.

So Darby began to sell insurance. Many try and fail at this endeavor. But Darby had learned his lesson, he learned to keep going no matter how bleak things look and to seek advice. He learned not to give up when a potential buyer said no. Because of the lesson he learned he was able to sell more than a million dollars of insurance every year, and that was in the days when a million dollars was worth much more than it is today.

“More than five hundred of the most successful men this country has ever known told the author their greatest success came just one step beyond the point at which defeat had overtaken them. Failure is a trickster with a keen sense of irony and cunning. It takes great delight in tripping one when success is almost within reach.” 2


1 Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill page 22

2 Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill page 23

The law of significance

556481_400226783404463_1378947734_nInfluential people have a big contribution in our lives. We look at their achievements, character, attitude, and their life. They might be our model or heroes in our success. We put them as an inspiration to go extra mile and motivate us to become a hardworking person. Who are your personal heroes? Which people do you admire most? Who do you wish more like? These people are significant to us.

 In a business, teamwork is very relevant. The significant of each member or team player is needed to achieve our goal. One is too small a number to achieve greatness. The myth of a Lone Ranger “The belief that one person can do something great is a myth.” Nothing of significance was ever achieved by an individual acting alone. It’s true that the history of our country is marked by the accomplishments of many strong and innovative individuals who took considerable risks. But those people always were part of teams.


1.) Teamwork is at the heart of great achievement. The question isn’t whether teams have value. The question is whether we acknowledge that fact and become better team players. It says, “Behind an able man there are always other able man.” There are no problems we cannot solve together, and very few that we can solve by ourselves. = Pres. Lyndon Johnson =

2.) Teams involve more people, thus affording more resources, ideas, and energy than would an individual.

3.) Teams maximize a leader’s potential and minimize his/her weaknesses. Strengths and weaknesses are more exposed in individuals.

4.) Teams provide multiple perspectives on how to meet a need or reach a goal, thus devising several alternatives for each situation. Individual insight is seldom as broad & deep as a group’s when it takes on a problem.

5.) Teams keep leaders accountable for the goal. Individuals connected to no one can change the goal without accountability.

6.) Teams can simply do more than an individual.

7.) Individuals play the game, but teams win championship.


A.) EGO – Teamwork is birthed when you concentrate on “WE” instead of “ME”. Few people are fond of admitting that they can’t do everything, yet that is a reality of life. The question is not whether you can do everything by yourself; it’s how soon you’re going to realize that you can’t. “It marks a big step in your development when you come to realize that other people can help you do a better job than you could do alone.” (Philanthropist Andrew Carnegie) To do something really big, let go of your ego, and get ready to be part of a team. “ALWAYS KEEP WORKING ON YOUR GAME.”= M. Jordan =

B.) INSECURITY – Insecure leaders usually fail to build teams because of one of two reasons:

     b.1) Either they want to maintain control over everything for which they are responsible or they fearbeing replaced by someone more capable.

      b.2) In either case, leaders who fail to promote teamwork undermine their own potential and erode the best efforts of the people with whom they work.

“We should not only use all the brains we have, but all that we can borrow”- Woodrow Wilson –

 C.) NAIVETE – They naively underestimate the difficulty of achieving big things. As a result, they try to go it alone.

 D.) TEMPERAMENT – Some people aren’t very outgoing and simply don’t think in terms of team building and team participation. As they face challenges, it never occurs to them to enlist others to achieve something.

 Chuck Swindoll wrote:

Nobody is a whole team… We need each other. You need someone and someone needs you.  Isolated island we’re not. To make this thing called life work, we got to lean and support.  And relate and respond. And give and take. And confess and forgive. And reach out and embrace and rely… Since none of us is a whole, independent, self-sufficient, super-capable, all-powerful hotshot, let’s quit acting like we are.


1.) Problems solving: A single brain can’t bounce different ideas off of each other. Each team member has a responsibility to contribute equally and offer their unique perspective on a problem to arrive at the best possible solution. Teamwork can lead to better decisions, products, or services. The quality of teamwork may be measured by analyzing the following six components of collaboration among team members: communication, coordination, balance of member contributions, mutual support, effort, and cohesion.  In one study, teamwork quality as measured in this manner correlated with team performance in the areas of effectiveness (i.e., producing high quality work) and efficiency (i.e., meeting schedules and budgets).  A 2008 meta-analysis also found a relationship between teamwork and team effectiveness.

2.) Accomplish tasks faster: A single person taking on multiple tasks will not be able to perform at a same pace as a team can. When people work together they can complete tasks faster by dividing the work to people of different abilities and knowledge.

3.) Healthy competition: A healthy competition in groups can be used to motivate individuals and help the team excel.

4.) Developing Relationships: A team that continues to work together will eventually develop an increased level of bonding. This can help people avoid unnecessary conflicts since they have become well acquainted with each other through team work. Team members’ ratings of their satisfaction with a team is correlated with the level of teamwork processes present.

5.) Everyone has unique qualities: Every team member can offer their unique knowledge and ability to help improve other team members. Through teamwork the sharing of these qualities will allow team members to be more productive in the future.


 In the Old Testament, teamwork was already declared. “Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their work: If one falls down, his friend can help him up. But pity the man who falls and has no one to help him up! Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. “ Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

Thomas Edison-the biggest loser

“A failure establishes only this: that our determination to succeed was not strong enough.” ~Bovee

“Sheer persistence is the difference between success and failure.”
– Donald Trump

“More men fail though lack of purpose than lack of talent.” – Bill Sunday

Thomas Edison probably failed more times than any other scientist/inventor of the last two centuries. However, he also succeeded more times than any other inventors. He received patents for well over a thousand useful inventions.

Babe Ruth struck out more times in a year than any other person in his baseball league. However, he also hit more home runs than anyone else.

This means that we don’t need to fear failure. In fact, if we learn from our failures, they can be very good things. Edison tried over 10,000 ways to design a long lasting light bulb. When asked if all those failures discouraged him he said “I have not failed. I have just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.”

“How many people are completely successful in every department of life? Not one. The most successful people are the ones who learn from their mistakes and turn their failures into opportunities.” – Zig Ziglar

Sometimes failure makes us stronger. Michael Jordan was cut from the varsity basketball team when he was a freshman, and the agony he experienced from that pushed him to work much harder than he already was. The player that beat him for the top spot must have been outstanding. If that player was not very good, Jordan would have made the team without learning to put extra effort into his goals and dreams. He might not have been such an outstanding player in college.

Abraham Lincoln failed many times, he went bankrupt, failed in political races many different times and married a woman who was apparently mentally ill. She was known for throwing coffee in his face in public, going on bizarre spending sprees and being especially difficult to get along with. But during one of the worst times in his marriage he wrote the Gettysburg Address which stands even today as a masterpiece. His years of being president of the US were extremely difficult, a man not as accustomed to trouble might have buckled under the pressure and let the US split into two countries.

Don’t let your failures get you down, they can raise you up.

The amazing Pygmalion effect

pygmalionThe Pygmalion effect (also called the Rosenthal effect) is a phenomenon that has been proven true by scientists, including Dr. Robert Rosenthal of Harvard and UC Riverside. It has been shown that when you have high expectations for your students, spouse, children, employees, etc. that they will perform better just because you have faith in them.

Also, it has been proven over and over that positive reinforcement (reward) works better to change people than negative reinforcement (punishment).

So when your child comes home with poor grades, it is best to say,

“Honey I know you can do better next time because you are smart” than to say

“You are grounded for a week, dummy.”

Self-fulfilling prophecy is powerful. Listen to the way you talk to yourself in your mind. Do you call yourself stupid, lazy, ugly? If you do, you will start to become what you call yourself.

An MMA fighter named Tito Ortiz talked about this. He had grueling workouts to prepare for fights and tried to motivate himself by calling himself lazy if he quit a workout early. He called himself a loser and other names people should never call themselves or others. Ortiz was unpopular in the ring. He was often booed, and he could not understand why people didn’t like him.

Later Ortiz got a new coach who told him to be careful of his “self-talk.” Ortiz began to call himself a winner and a hard worker. To his surprise, the fans quit booing him and he dramatically improved his fighting ability. It became easier to finish his workouts.

Do you want to change someone? Wives I know you want to change your husband. The best way is to use positive statements. “Honey, I really admire you when you take out the trash” is better than getting angry and not talking. Silence only makes things worse, because us men are never smart enough to read your minds.

If you really believe in yourself and your people, great things will happen!